Raising a boy

Raising a boy

As my son gets closer to being born, I notice things in the young men around me that I find annoying or even rude. Or I see young men ill-prepared for professional life, and I wonder, “What did you spend your youth doing?”

And that leads me to video games.  I personally believe that we have a whole generation of young adults now who are completely unprepared for life. I see the latch-key kids coming home from work as 20somethings and even 30somethings and they are a generation completely shaped by media. They don’t question media, they believe it whole-hardheartedly.  When I suggest going to original sources (supreme court decisions, congressional edicts etc) they complain that they can’t read it, it doesn’t make sense, or they didn’t know that this information was available to the public. This amazes me. I was trained to read the opinions of supreme court justices, analyze that and then observe the news.  But that was an AP class, the majority of my contemporaries did not have that experience, and they are used to viewing CNN or Fox as original sources, not the town criers or Rachel Lyndes they used to be recognized as.

All that to say, there are 10 things I’ve decided I want to teach my son:

1. How to read, at an advanced reading level

2. Manners for every situation
3. How to great a boss, interview, address colleagues,
4. How to greet a woman
5. What the best exercise for his own style of fitness is
6. How to read a court decision
7. How to write a business letter, a correspondence letter and a newsletter
8. How to cook 7 meals
9. How to wash dishes and clothes properly
10. Cut, Color & Clarity for a ring.
What things do you want your son to know before he graduates college?
Pregnancy Food – 12 weeks

Pregnancy Food – 12 weeks

Normally I try to eat healthy. My husband is a personal trainer / bodybuilder and I try to be as healthy as possible. Well, when I’m not expecting. When I am, I eat small quantities of whatever I want. 

Today I want ramen noodle with peanut butter. I cook it in chicken broth and I add veggies and 2 TBS of peanut butter. This groses put my husband amd my parents. 

What’s the weirdest thing you’ve eaten while pregnant? 

US Healthcare in FL Makes Me Cry

US Healthcare in FL Makes Me Cry

3 years ago our healthcare was better. Even my pediatrician says so. If you don’t agree with me, I really don’t need to hear it today. I am in the middle of trying to get my 1st born immunized without going broke, & find a new OB because the wonderful triathalon running OB from last time switched hospitals. Truth be told I liked the hospital & their nurses better than the OB and you know what, to me thats important because you spend more time with the nurses than with the doctor. So here I am calling all over town. 

You know I remember 5 years ago I worked at an urban community health center in their reproductive health building. I did medical billing & then I was the personal assistant of the department director. We cared for our clients. They were lower income clients but they got the best we had. Honestly, I wished I still lived there because I would take my daughter there. Because Pennsylvania is better than Florida healthcare-wise in my experience. 

All this to say, we’ve been lied to about afordable healthcare. My husband makes too much for us to get basic healthcare and we make too little to get exceptional healthcare. So we are stuck with shitty middle-of-the-road healthcare that means there are a lot of out-of-pocket expenses. I don’t even care that this seems political. Its not about political parties for me. Its about taking care of my child. Its about trying to keep household expenses down so that every three months we can shell out hundreds of dollars for basic universal precautions.

Praise God we are not in debt, praise God for my husband’s 2 jobs and my freelance work. Because if not for God I’d be more discouraged than I am today.

I took this picture two days ago when i drove from my teeny house to Islamorada and the tide was coming in. I felt small and insignificant, but safe. Now? I still feel small and insignificant and I’m trying to focus on making my daughter feel safe. 

L’s birthday party 

L’s birthday party 

So we had L’s birthday party & there was a cornucopia of good foods. I neglected to take a picture of the arroz con pollo, however I had 2 relatives say they tip their hat to me. My husband’s grandfather & aunt said the carrot cake was the best they ever had, and my husband borrowed my appetizers for a post on his fitness app. 

The main table 

The dessert table 

Smash cake

Regular cake

Tea sanwhiches for the toddlers present

Ccucumber cream cheese & tomato appetizers

L and her bffs

L and her cousin

L & her smash cake

All in all it was very successful. I’m not the best at frosting cakes, but I think the flavor made up for it! 

God loves your smile 

God loves your smile 

Sometimes when nursing, my daughter will fall asleep with the best satisfied look on her face. It makes me happy. How much more happy is God when he sees us enjoying the good things He has given us? 
“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.”

James 1:17 ESV

Babies’ Naps Matter!

Babies’ Naps Matter!

No matter what side of the aisle you’re on, if you’re a mother, there is one thing you know to be true:

Babies’ Naps Matter.

It’s serious! If they’re under 1 yr, they desparately need those 2 daily naps! If they’re under 5 they need that afternoon nap. And Mama, I know YOU need that quiet time in your house too! 

Personally I hate seeing the videos where mothers are hiding out in their pantrys, closets or bathrooms, while their kids run wild all through the house. *no judgement* but it was my house first, you have a room in it…What work’s for me is being super intentional about making sure my peanut has both naps in. 

While she naps I can get things done. Or not, you know? I talk to my people (do we say tribe? Squad? What’s the right terminology nowadays?) Or do the laundry, or catch up on my shows, shower, or do some reading. It’s a nice reset for both of us. And my house looks clean, I get clean, and I’m the jolly person we all know and love. 

Now to be perfectly honest, there are days where she sings or blows bubbles or plays with her giraffe instead of naps, especially the shorter nap. But you know what? It is my opinion she needs that time too. It’s where her personhood and imagination are given opportunity to grow. Also my pediatrician says it’s cool, so I’m down. 
 It’s a joy to sit in my livingroom sipping tea & eating scones, and listen to her making music for 45 minutes. At the end of nap time, after a quick diaper change we are reunited and off on mama-hija adventures once more.